Morning guys. I hope you remember today that if you slip up you can restart your day at any time. You don’t have to wait til the next day to start over. Just sit down, breathe for a few minutes, and start again.
Also, what would you say is a healthy weight goal for me to be at? Like I said before I’m a female, 13, and 5’7
Okay, my first piece of advice would be to talk to a doctor or dietitian or someone like that. They’re the experts so they’ll probably have concrete answers for weight loss or helping you to find a diet* and exercise plan that suits you!
If you find that you’re kinda absent-mindedly eating, perhaps find some distractions for yourself whenever you find yourself veering towards the kitchen. You could take a walk, read a book, paint your nails whatever it is that you like to do in your spare time (those are all very generic examples, I know. I’ve never been good at those “What do you like todo in your free time?” questions; I just give dull answers like that).
Also, try to listen to your body. If you find yourself reaching for food, ask yourself what’s motivating you: is it hunger, or is it just boredom? If you’re not sure, maybe drink some water, wait about 15 minutes, then decide.
As for exercise, there’s so many different ways of getting yourself moving and active. There’s bound to be something you’ll enjoy. Some people like running, and some don’t. Some like hiking, swimming, dancing. Again, some don’t. And that’s fine. If you’re not sure, why not see if you can trials of different classes, just to get a feel for them? Walking is great. You can just stick some earphones in your ears and go. And it’s not as demanding as running, but still a great form of exercise. Sure, anything that gets you moving is! Don’t give up - there’s something out there for you; you just need to keep an open mind.
Just to reiterate (that makes me sound like an awful smart-arse, sorry): I’m not a doctor/dietitan. I don’t think it’s for me to say what an ideal weight for you would be. As long as you’re healthy, that’s all that matters! I think the BMI system is a joke, to be honest; it’s not an accurate measure of health.
Anyway, I hope this helps somewhat. Take it one day at a time, be patient and be your own motivator. You can make changes if you put your mind to it! Good luck x
(*and by diet, I mean a balanced one. Not a restrictive one)
Yeah, go ahead! I’m not the best with advice but I’ll do my best.
Yes, I remember that message! And I’ve had a good snoop of the blog too. But thank you for the invite - I’ll definitely head along to this (my bus goes all the way out there from where I live so I have no excuse).
Really looking forward to this. Thank you!
Thank you! I think it’s just good to be honest about it. It’s hard and there’ll be days when you want to give up, but you can do it. Life is much better when you’re freed from it all.
kI did. A lot. But this year it’s definitely gotten better. I think what you need to do is just have a good long think about what you want to achieve in your lifetime: do you want to continue living a cold, restrictive life of being your disorder’s puppet, or do you want to soar and be free to live and enjoy your life? And I know for me, the latter far outweighs the first. Ultimately, I have an enormous lust for life, and my ED tried -and tries- to take that away from me; tries to delude me into thinking that’s not enough. Not what I want.
I know it’s hard. It’s very, very, very hard not to slip backwards. Not to eat. Not to base your worth on how small you are. Not to let comparison seep into your head and poison you. It’s hard. But nothing worth having ever came easy. Life is really great without your disorder pressing down on you like an anvil. Please trust me. I, and many others, were where you are now and didn’t believe the people who told us things like this. Too afraid of the unknown of being disorder free. It’s a terrifying though - you can barely remember what life was like before it. But it’s great.
Some days aren’t good - that’s inevitable. But you learn to cope. And as long as you know that they’re not forever, you’re invincible, almost.
But in short, and as sappy as it sounds, follow your dreams not your disorder. Live your life for you. The illness will only ever try to hold you back; telling you it means well, that it’ll make you happy. But you know that’s complete bullshit. Take it slowly, one day at a time. It’ll all fall in place, just give yourself plenty of patience and self-encouragement.
Stay strong (and I hope this helped but it probably didn’t at all, I’m sorry) x